In light of going camping this weekend, my mind is already on other thoughts: going on a date. I doubt it will be easy, because I don't feel date-worthy; I have plans in place to change that but it's going to take almost three months to achieve that. That's a long time from now. But I've been wanting to go on a fancy-schamncy date for a while, but the idea seems rather diluted. I go out to sit-down restaurants a lot; and that doesn't always make me feel good because I end up thinking like everyone else: I could save so much more money if I went someplace cheaper like a Subway or Chipotle. It's not about taste, it's about cost. (Not to mention, fast food is bad for you and every small food stand is cold enough to turn my wife's fingers blue (which I worry about all the time; nobody should be that cold in California in the summer.)) If our kitchen is ever set up right and cleaned and I get home on time, I ought to cook more. I like cooking at home, but the timing has been off for a while, and I don't like the responsibilities to lie on my wife, who we both agree shouldn't be a Suzie Homemaker (A Gil Elvegreen pin-up in an apron, garters, and heels with a dab of whipped cream on a whisk, maybe, but not ACTUALLY slaving away over a hot stove.)
But I think that's why I want a date: dates can be expensive, but worth it. A great dinner, guzzied up with a bottle of wine and chef-prepared food, followed by something other than a movie - It could be dancing (though I like Swing, and my wife has favored salsa..both I've yet to do well enough not get frustrated or embarressed at), or actual box seats to a concert at teh Hollywood bowl..or the theater, something out of the norm. An evening in a winery has always intrigued me
For me, I think it opens the way to other, more casual dates, stuff still out out of the norm, but in more comfortable clothes. See a garden. Pack a picnic. Ride bikes along the beach. Stay overnight. Watch the sunrise. Drive a convertible. Play UNO. Dress up like a greaser for a 50's night. Watch the Classic cars at Bob's. Or even better, dress up Victorian and head to a Evening social. More Ren Faires. I still haven't planted a tomato vine in years.
I think the grind of everyday living carries itself too far into everything and it's important to break out of the mold. I'm never too comfortable with a routine, but I've not been comfortable struggling with variety either. Of course, it's a moot point if you're trying to do this all alone. So I guess I want to be a bit awkward, a bit out of my comfort zones; I'm not expecting perfection; I'm expecting difference and experience. So I need to ask, what have people out there done to really shake their world a bit? What's a "good date"?